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May 22, 2020

Today, I want to talk about what it means to listen to and support a loved one. Often times, we are quick to judge someone’s story based on our own perceptions and ideas of reality. We “listen” without actually listening with a clear heart. We have our own ideas of what they should do or how they should behave. This judgment can lead to both parties feeling misunderstood and alone.


Over the last 12 years that I’ve been working in the field of addiction recovery, I’ve seen hundreds of family members who want to help their struggling loved one, only to be at a loss for how to get through to them. In today’s episode, I’m explaining how to create an environment that builds trust and safety so that your loved one has the chance to open up. We’ll also dive into listening with intention and openness so that you and your family members feel heard. If this resonates with you, I highly encourage you to look into our new program, Family SOS, so that you and your family can get the help that you deserve.


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The Abstinence Myth, by Adi Jaffe — Free! Just pay shipping!

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Topics Discussed:

[3:31] About today’s episode.

[3:40] A story that someone in my Instagram direct messenger told me.

[6:37] The common denominator in most people who struggle with addiction.

[6:58] How we need to listen to stories.

[8:25] How to create an environment to help someone feel motivated.

[9:07] Setting real boundaries.

[11:22] Why we can’t force people to make choices and take action.

[11:40] What we’re doing at IGNTD: a program entirely for the family members.

[12:00] If you know anybody who is struggling with this, please send this episode and family SOS program their way!


Mentioned in this Episode:

The Abstinence Myth, by Adi Jaffe — Free! Just pay shipping!

Family SOS Program


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